I came across this post on a thread about being pressured to have kids:
Me and my S/O are very much planning a child-free life together but the familial pressure of:"oh, just have one you'll LOVE IT!" (I personally hear this so often... do they not hear how objectifying they are? like a fucking baby is a table tennis set)"just wait and see how easy it is when you have kids""you'll understand when you're a 'mother'... its hell at times but so worth it"is VERY persistent AND gross and to me it's almost fucking incesty how fucking specific they'll want you to suffer with kids the way they did.
I messaged them and suggested they read the two "Fight the Power" chapters in Losing My Religions. They messaged back within 90 minutes:
I have just gotta tell ya, reading those chapters you recommended made me feel so much better. It feels nice to hear from people like you. me and s/o live in a deep south "cow town" too lol. It sucks, but we're slowly planning a move out. thank you for making me feel less alone! i really needed that.
Made my day. This is exactly what I want for my book - to be as helpful as possible to as many people as possible.
|Makes sense in Losing.